Sep
21
7:00pm 7:00pm

Self-Sabotage - Free Talk - Lausanne

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We know what we want to do - the change we want to make - yet we keep getting in our own way. 

Maybe you know the scenario:

You start out motivated to make the change you want to make, the habit you want to change.

You tell yourself that THIS TIME things will be different. This time, it will work.

This might be a new way of eating or exercising, a new business project or the way you react in a relationship. 

So you bring in more willpower. You bring in discipline. Perhaps some deprivation. You feel strong. You feel optimistic that THIS TIME things will be different. 

Fast forward a few weeks later. You've given up. Again. It seems impossible to make this change. And you feel angry and disappointed with yourself because it feels like you've gotten in your own way. 

What's going on? 

What if what's going on actually made perfect sense? 

What if there is always a good reason for everything we do, including not being able to stick to our goals and seemingly getting in our own way? 

Because self-sabotage has at its core an inner conflict. A conflict between different parts of ourselves. 

And when we understand this conflict and what's really going on, we can stop beating ourselves up about it, and discover a more effective way of making change. 

A way that does not involve discipline and deprivation. 

A way that involves working more effectively with the different parts of ourselves while tapping into a wiser part that can help us make sustainable change. 

Join me in this free talk in Lausanne as I explain this dynamic - what's really going on - and how to make more effective change. 

Where: La Serre - Ch. de Bérée 4a, 1010 Lausanne (10 minutes with the M2 metro from the train station - Fourmi stop)

This talk is free but sign-up is necessary: 

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Apr
26
8:00pm 8:00pm

Emotional Mastery: Online Group Coaching

Learn how to work with and understand emotions. 

Do you have a hard time dealing with ‘negative’ emotions? 

Do you find yourself either numbing with food or alcohol or TV or exploding and regretting your reaction later?

What if we could start seeing emotions as neither our boss nor our enemy but as messengers, each with something specific to tell us?

What if we could have mastery over emotions so they can work for us, not against us - helping us gain more self-awareness, make better decisions and feel fully alive?

This introduction to emotions will allow you relate to your emotions in a completely different way.

It will provide you with the language to understand what is really going on when an emotion shows up and how to work with it, rather than against it.

Through simple, experiential tools, you will learn to handle emotions in a way that is counterintuitive to anything we are taught.

I don't think we can learn much about ourselves, our relationships, or the world without recognizing and getting curious about emotions. - Brené Brown

The Format

  • 3 virtual meetings: A mix of presentation + discussion / practical exercises 
  • Action steps to practise between sessions
  • PDF summaries
  • Video recording of all sessions in case you miss a session or want to re-watch it

We will use an easy to use virtual meeting room so we can all hear and see each other. If you don't have a webcam or don't want to use video, you can also join via audio or chat.

Session 1:

What are emotions?

Emotions and the body - learning to locate them

Finding the middle ground between suppressing emotions and allowing them to explode all over the place.

Starting to bring curiosity to painful emotions

Session 2: 

Going through the individual emotions + understanding their ‘job description’ in your internal village

Starting to speak the language of the emotions.  

Session 3: 

How to deal with the emotions of stress

Bringing everything together: How to work with emotions

Cost

120 CHF / USD for everything - can be paid by bank transfer or with PayPal - please pick below. 

Space is limited to keep a small group dynamic - please sign-up here:

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Apr
4
7:00pm 7:00pm

Hello, Inner Critic

Why are we often our own worst enemy? 

Does it makes sense that we wouldn't talk to others the way we talk to ourselves?

And how can we learn to better live with the Inner Critic?

We will explore why the inner critic makes sense from an evolutionary perspective, and how to better live with this painful voice of self-sabotage or self-criticism. 

This workshop is based on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), a mindfulness-based behavioural approach.

The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves. - Pema Chödrön

50 CHF 

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Mar
21
6:30pm 6:30pm

Once Upon a Dark Time: Skills for Coping with a Difficult Time

Are you struggling with something in your life right now?

A separation / break-up, death of a loved one, depression, life as an expat? Or maybe there is nothing in particular - life just feels hard. 

Often we end up feeling helpless because there isn’t much we can do to make the situation easier and the dark times can feel like a burden we have to carry.

What if we could learn to carry that burden differently, so that it feels a little lighter? 

This workshop provides skills to better deal with the dark times by helping you:

♥ Learn to deal with difficult emotions.

♥ Work with painful aspects such as regret in a more constructive way. 

♥ Start to have your own back in times of difficulty (self-compassion).

♥ Connect to what matters to you in this situation - your values.

♥ Better listen to your needs during this time.

 Cost: 50 CHF, including snack + handout

This workshop is based on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and given by Hiba - Psychologist + Coach. 

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. - Viktor Frankl

Please sign-up as space is limited: 

 

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Mar
1
8:00pm 8:00pm

Boundaries Online Group Coaching

This is now fully booked - please sign-up for the newsletter to know about the next session. 

Do you have a hard time saying no to things you don’t want to do?

Do you feel that people are always taking advantage of you?

Do you find yourself always needing to please people?

Do you have a hard time knowing what you want, making decisions or being clear on your desires?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need healthy boundaries!

This online group coaching class will help you establish healthy boundaries - knowing when to say YES, NO and MAYBE - in a way that feels authentic and aligned. 

The Content

session 1 - march 1 - 20:00 - 21:30 (CET)

  1. Why boundary setting is HARD and feels unnatural and counter to our need for connection and attachment.
  2. Why boundaries are necessary for healthy human relationships grounded in authenticity and integrity. 
  3. Understanding what we are responsible for or can influence and what we can't (hint: we can’t control other people’s actions or reactions).
  4. Understanding the key role of anger: Starting to notice anger / resentment / regret as signals that our boundaries have been crossed.

session 2 - march 8 - 20:00 - 21:30 (CET)

  1. Connecting with what we want to stand for in a situation (values) and using them as a guiding force. 
  2. Tapping into healthy anger (assertiveness) to establish boundaries. 
  3. How to set a boundary step-by-step.

session 3 - march 15 - 20:00 - 21:30 (CET)

  1. Noticing the discomfort that shows up as part of the experience
  2. Working with the inevitable discomfort of setting a boundary and choosing this over longer-term resentment. 
  3. Dealing with other people’s reactions.

The Format

  • 3 virtual meetings: 45 minute presentation + 45 minute discussion / practical exercises 
  • Action steps to practise between sessions
  • PDF summaries
  • Video recording of all sessions in case you miss a session or want to re-watch it

We will use an easy to use virtual meeting room so we can all hear and see each other. If you don't have a webcam, you can also join via audio.

Cost

85 CHF / USD or 80 EUROS for everything - can be paid by bank transfer or with PayPal - please pick below. 

Space is limited to keep a small group dynamic - please sign-up here:

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Feb
14
7:15pm 7:15pm

Closeness Beyond Romance

Thank you for your interest - this event is now fully booked! 

How do we create intimacy in non-romantic relationships?

What holds us back from feeling more connected to other people?

Instead of expecting one person to complete us, how can we create a village around us?

These are the questions we will explore through a mix of open-hearted discussions / exercises + insights from the psychology of intimacy. And because it is Valentine's Day after all, we will also enjoy some delicious homemade chocolate! 

Cost: 15 CHF 

Everyone (men, women, single, not single, it's complicated) is welcome! 

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