Oct
21
to Dec 9

Becoming Wiser: A Workshop Trilogy

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How about ending the year a little wiser?

Join us on these Sunday afternoons of growth and learn practical skills to cultivate your internal village of thoughts, emotions, needs, desires - what makes you uniquely YOU.

This series of workshops is about:

Owning your village: Boundaries + Assertiveness

Getting to know your village: Emotions + Intuition

Authentically relating to others: Connection + Trust

How workshops work

Each workshop lasts 3.5 hours from 13:30 - 17:00 and includes a break + homemade snack.

The information shared is a unique mix of wisdom from: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) / Sensorimotor Psychotherapy / Brené Brown / Harriet Lerner / Karla McLaren.

Each workshop combines theoretical knowledge with fun, practical exercises where we also work with a felt sense of what is happening in the body.

You can come to one workshop or all three.


Sunday October 21: Boundaries + Assertiveness

We start by building a sense of self - defining where we end and others begin, who we are and what we want through Boundaries + Assertiveness.

We create a protection, a definition, a container around our internal village so we can take care of it more effectively, stand up for what’s OK and not OK, what we want to say YES to, what we want to say NO to, and all the possibilities in between. 

Boundaries are about owning who we are and what we want. Unapologetically. Authentically. With assertiveness and confidence.


Sunday November 11: Emotions + Intuition

Once we have a clear boundary around the village , we can safely explore what is happening inside through Emotions + Intuition.

Learning the language of emotions is key to better understanding ourselves and others. They provide a grounded knowing or intuition that we can learn to tap into. 

We are rarely taught how to contain emotions yet this skill is an important part of being a healthy adult. It can lead to more aliveness and vitality, instead of a numbing general OK-ness.

Emotions are like villagers who make up our internal village, each with a specific job description. We will explore all the emotions in our internal village and define each job description, based on the premise that there are no ‘good’ or ‘bad’ emotions - that all emotions have a role.

We will practise working with emotions so they are neither suppressed nor exploding all over the place. Instead, they are balanced, flowing and able to provide information about who we are and what we want.


Sunday December 2: Connection + Trust

Feeling safe and understanding our own village enables us to reach out to others through Connection + Trust.

True, authentic connection can come only once we have a sense of healthy boundaries so we don’t lose ourselves in the connection. We can only truly connect with others when we can first connect with ourselves by being aware of our emotions. 

Trust allows us to know when it is safe to open up and connect, and when it is wiser to walk away or close off.

Being able to both trust and connect with others while staying centred brings meaning and vitality to life and relationships.


Your investment

While the workshops are designed to build on to each other, it is not essential to attend all three. You may choose to attend as many as you wish - and you can always add workshops later and benefit from the cost reduction.

1 workshop: 110 CHF

2 workshops: 180 CHF

3 workshops: 250 CHF

After signing-up, you will receive an invoice which you can pay by bank transfer or credit card. Your sign-up is confirmed once payment is received.

Reimbursement is possible up to one week before each workshop - otherwise, your spot can be given to someone else or moved to another workshop (if there is space).

Where

Espace Solâme

Rue Pré-du-Marché 48

1004 Lausanne

TIP: A great place for brunch close by is Le Pointu - make sure you book in advance as it is always full. Blackbird is also a good option.

Sign-up

Please sign-up to secure your spot as space is limited.

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Hiba - Psychologist @ Wiser Humans

Hiba is a Psychologist working in private practise in Geneva and Lausanne.

A Swiss-Jordanian mix, Hiba has a Masters Degree in Psychology from the University of Lausanne (UNIL) and worked for 8 years in communication agencies before finding her way back to her original passion: Psychology.

She is particularly interested in the themes of these workshops and is constantly working on integrating them into her life on a deeper level.

Her approach is practical, fun and grounded.

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I want these workshops to be accessible and inclusive - to create a small group dynamic where people feel safe enough to learn new ways of being in relationship to themselves and others.

These skills help me live a life of meaning and integrity on a daily basis and I am excited to share them!


Marie-Alix - Intern @ Wiser Humans

Marie-Alix is a graduate student of mental health counseling at the University of Webster in Geneva. She is currently working with Hiba to create the Becoming Wiser Trilogy.

She grew up in Switzerland and moved to the United States for her undergraduate degree. She attended the University of Virginia and graduated with a bachelor of arts in media studies and philosophy. She then moved to New York and worked in venture capital for two years before making a career switch to counseling.

She is particularly interested in themes around attachment, EMDR, narrative medicine, somatic experiencing, and technology use linked to mental health issues.

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I am excited for the Becoming Wiser trilogy because I believe in the importance of these themes in the grand scheme of life - I know they can make a big difference.

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Jun
25
7:30 PM19:30

Relationship Patterns

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Do you notice that you often repeat certain patterns in your relationships (both romantic and others)? 

Maybe others take advantage of how nice you are and you feel resentment or frustration - like nobody supports you. 

Maybe you play small, take up as little space as possible or try to be easy-going and cool - and then feeling unseen or unappreciated. 

Maybe you help everyone out, are always there for them...but nobody is really there for YOU. 

Or you might feel cut off, disconnected, distant from other people - like nobody really understands you. 

The patterns we repeat in relationships make sense. They are often how we learned to act as children to be in connection with others and to be valued - and this relationship blueprint is what still guides us today as adults. 

It isn’t our fault - and it also isn’t our destiny.

By better understanding why we do what we do, we can start to question and change how we show up in our relationships instead of just doing what we’ve always done.

This interactive talk will mix attachment theory and boundary styles to help explain in a fun way common relationship patterns. 

Location: Lausanne Therapy Space - 18 rue du Grand-Pont - 1003 Lausanne

Cost: 40 CHF

Space is limited - please sign-up below:

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Mar
24
2:00 PM14:00

Exploring the Wilderness: A Workshop for Men Who Want to Act from Strength

A Workshop for Men Who Want to Act from Strength

Charles Darwin’s survival of the fittest is often understood as the survival of the strongest - yet what he meant was that survival of a species depends not on sheer force, but on the ability to be aware of and adapt to the environment - to the wilderness.

This is the broader definition of strength we will use in this workshop for men: We will explore what it means to be a man who is confident, assertive and adaptable, and not afraid of standing in and acting from his strength. 

We will use a mix of exercises and explorations from the world of Psychology to explore how to:

1. Overcome the obstacles in the way. 

2. Understand the boundaries of any man's strength - what he can and cannot shape in life and relationships.

3. Adapt to cues from the environment: Knowing when to be solid as a rock and when to be fluid like water.

4. Better communicate with members of the tribe: Tools for relationships. 

By the end of this exploration, you will discover a broader definition of strength based not on brute force but on assertiveness, confidence and adaptability. 

You will be able to start acting from your own strength in a way that is attractive and assertive without being overpowering.

Empty your mind, be formless, shapeless - like water. Now you put water in a cup, it becomes the cup; You put water into a bottle it becomes the bottle; You put it in a teapot it becomes the teapot. Now water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend. - Bruce Lee

when + where 

Saturday March 24 -14:00 - 17:30 @ Lausanne Therapy Space in central Lausanne - 18 rue du Grand-Pont, 1003 Lausanne

cost

60 CHF


a little about us

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Aernout has worked with the theme of modern day masculinity since 2001, originally as a writer / journalist. He published the book Spots of a Leopard in 2009 based on his encounters with men in Africa about what it means to be a man today.

Subsequently trained as a counsellor / psychologist, Aernout works one-on-one with men in his private practise near Nyon. 

Aernout was born in Zambia, raised in the Netherlands and has lived in numerous African countries between 1997 and 2016. In July 2016 he moved to Geneva with his wife, Käbi. 


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Hiba studied psychology in Lausanne, and worked for eight years in the international corporate world. Following a six-month travel sabbatical, she realised she wanted to return to her original passion: Psychology. 

Hiba refined her psychological training by focusing on acceptance and compassion in the therapy room, offering her clients a set of skills and tools to help them better navigate their lives.

She works in private practise with both men and women in Geneva and Lausanne.


why a mixed gender facilitation?

We met last year as part of the same peer supervision group and both expressed an interest in working with men in a group format. 

We share an interest in the topic of what it means to be a man in the age of #metoo, where men are asked to be vulnerable and show sensitivity, yet still expected to be strong.

We decided to hold this workshop as a man / woman team in order to share different perspectives - both a lived experience of being a man and that of a woman experiencing this from the other side. 


Hiba says of Aernout:

Aernout brings a wealth of life experience, of deep questioning and insight on what it means to be a man. Even though he works in a field that is typically considered feminine, and shows incredible empathy and sensitivity, he also embodies strength and masculinity. I feel honoured to work with him in creating this experience!

Aernout says of Hiba:

Hiba brings great experience, warmth, humour and power of presence to any engagement I’ve witnessed her in. She has tremendous insight into some of the challenges modern men face: How to be authentic, how to be real, how to be strong without being aggressive. I’m looking forward to facilitating this workshop with her, because she works hard to help others shine in their own right.

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Mar
11
1:00 PM13:00

Yoga + Psychology Urban Retreat (Lausanne)

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Overcome self-doubt + do what matters 

I’ll do it when I feel more confident.

How many times have you said this to yourself?  

Do doubts and fears about yourself hold you back from fully living your life?

What if there was a way to build confidence instead of just waiting for it to happen?

Join this Yoga + Psychology Urban Retreat led by Ludmila, Yoga Teacher and Hiba, Psychologist and overcome the doubts and fears that are keeping your life small.

We will combine yoga focused on the Manipura Chakra (personal power) with a scientifically validated approach based on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).

You will learn a new way to approach confidence so you can start doing the stuff that matters to you. 

You will leave with effective skills to build self-confidence in any life situation and and a felt sense of the strength present in your body.

No previous experience in yoga needed. 

when

Sunday March 11 -13:00 - 17:00

where

Ooom Studio - Rue de Bourg 20 1003 Lausanne

cost

110 CHF or 90 CHF if you bring a friend. This includes yoga, workshop, handouts and a healthy snack.

agenda

15 minute meditation

1 hour workshop with Hiba

20 minute break with healthy snacks 

45 minute workshop with Hiba

1 hour yoga with Ludmila

Share

40 minute yin yoga to relax and integrate all the learnings

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Feb
14
7:30 PM19:30

Connection Beyond Romance (Lausanne)

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How do we create intimacy in non-romantic relationships?

What holds us back from feeling more connected to other people?

How can we create a village around us instead of relying on one person to fulfil us?

These are the questions we will explore through a mix of open-hearted discussions / exercises + insights from the psychology of intimacy.

And because it is Valentine's Day, we will also enjoy some chocolate together! 

Cost: 20 CHF 

Everyone (men, women, single, not single, it's complicated) is welcome! 

When: Wednesday February 14 - 19:30 - 21:15

Where: At Lausanne Therapy Space in central Lausanne (18 rue du Grand-Pont, 1003 Lausanne).

This event is hosted by Hiba Samawi, Psychologist FSP. 

Space is limited - please sign-up:

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Sep
21
7:00 PM19:00

Self-Sabotage - Free Talk - Lausanne

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We know what we want to do - the change we want to make - yet we keep getting in our own way. 

Maybe you know the scenario:

You start out motivated to make the change you want to make, the habit you want to change.

You tell yourself that THIS TIME things will be different. This time, it will work.

This might be a new way of eating or exercising, a new business project or the way you react in a relationship. 

So you bring in more willpower. You bring in discipline. Perhaps some deprivation. You feel strong. You feel optimistic that THIS TIME things will be different. 

Fast forward a few weeks later. You've given up. Again. It seems impossible to make this change. And you feel angry and disappointed with yourself because it feels like you've gotten in your own way. 

What's going on? 

What if what's going on actually made perfect sense? 

What if there is always a good reason for everything we do, including not being able to stick to our goals and seemingly getting in our own way? 

Because self-sabotage has at its core an inner conflict. A conflict between different parts of ourselves. 

And when we understand this conflict and what's really going on, we can stop beating ourselves up about it, and discover a more effective way of making change. 

A way that does not involve discipline and deprivation. 

A way that involves working more effectively with the different parts of ourselves while tapping into a wiser part that can help us make sustainable change. 

Join me in this free talk in Lausanne as I explain this dynamic - what's really going on - and how to make more effective change. 

Where: La Serre - Ch. de Bérée 4a, 1010 Lausanne (10 minutes with the M2 metro from the train station - Fourmi stop)

This talk is free but sign-up is necessary: 

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Apr
26
8:00 PM20:00

Emotional Mastery: Online Group Coaching

Learn how to work with and understand emotions. 

Do you have a hard time dealing with ‘negative’ emotions? 

Do you find yourself either numbing with food or alcohol or TV or exploding and regretting your reaction later?

What if we could start seeing emotions as neither our boss nor our enemy but as messengers, each with something specific to tell us?

What if we could have mastery over emotions so they can work for us, not against us - helping us gain more self-awareness, make better decisions and feel fully alive?

This introduction to emotions will allow you relate to your emotions in a completely different way.

It will provide you with the language to understand what is really going on when an emotion shows up and how to work with it, rather than against it.

Through simple, experiential tools, you will learn to handle emotions in a way that is counterintuitive to anything we are taught.

I don't think we can learn much about ourselves, our relationships, or the world without recognizing and getting curious about emotions. - Brené Brown

The Format

  • 3 virtual meetings: A mix of presentation + discussion / practical exercises 
  • Action steps to practise between sessions
  • PDF summaries
  • Video recording of all sessions in case you miss a session or want to re-watch it

We will use an easy to use virtual meeting room so we can all hear and see each other. If you don't have a webcam or don't want to use video, you can also join via audio or chat.

Session 1:

What are emotions?

Emotions and the body - learning to locate them

Finding the middle ground between suppressing emotions and allowing them to explode all over the place.

Starting to bring curiosity to painful emotions

Session 2: 

Going through the individual emotions + understanding their ‘job description’ in your internal village

Starting to speak the language of the emotions.  

Session 3: 

How to deal with the emotions of stress

Bringing everything together: How to work with emotions

Cost

120 CHF / USD for everything - can be paid by bank transfer or with PayPal - please pick below. 

Space is limited to keep a small group dynamic - please sign-up here:

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Apr
4
7:00 PM19:00

Hello, Inner Critic

Why are we often our own worst enemy? 

Does it makes sense that we wouldn't talk to others the way we talk to ourselves?

And how can we learn to better live with the Inner Critic?

We will explore why the inner critic makes sense from an evolutionary perspective, and how to better live with this painful voice of self-sabotage or self-criticism. 

This workshop is based on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), a mindfulness-based behavioural approach.

The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves. - Pema Chödrön

50 CHF 

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Mar
21
6:30 PM18:30

Once Upon a Dark Time: Skills for Coping with a Difficult Time

Are you struggling with something in your life right now?

A separation / break-up, death of a loved one, depression, life as an expat? Or maybe there is nothing in particular - life just feels hard. 

Often we end up feeling helpless because there isn’t much we can do to make the situation easier and the dark times can feel like a burden we have to carry.

What if we could learn to carry that burden differently, so that it feels a little lighter? 

This workshop provides skills to better deal with the dark times by helping you:

♥ Learn to deal with difficult emotions.

♥ Work with painful aspects such as regret in a more constructive way. 

♥ Start to have your own back in times of difficulty (self-compassion).

♥ Connect to what matters to you in this situation - your values.

♥ Better listen to your needs during this time.

 Cost: 50 CHF, including snack + handout

This workshop is based on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and given by Hiba - Psychologist + Coach. 

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. - Viktor Frankl

Please sign-up as space is limited: 

 

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Mar
1
8:00 PM20:00

Boundaries Online Group Coaching

This is now fully booked - please sign-up for the newsletter to know about the next session. 

Do you have a hard time saying no to things you don’t want to do?

Do you feel that people are always taking advantage of you?

Do you find yourself always needing to please people?

Do you have a hard time knowing what you want, making decisions or being clear on your desires?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need healthy boundaries!

This online group coaching class will help you establish healthy boundaries - knowing when to say YES, NO and MAYBE - in a way that feels authentic and aligned. 

The Content

session 1 - march 1 - 20:00 - 21:30 (CET)

  1. Why boundary setting is HARD and feels unnatural and counter to our need for connection and attachment.
  2. Why boundaries are necessary for healthy human relationships grounded in authenticity and integrity. 
  3. Understanding what we are responsible for or can influence and what we can't (hint: we can’t control other people’s actions or reactions).
  4. Understanding the key role of anger: Starting to notice anger / resentment / regret as signals that our boundaries have been crossed.

session 2 - march 8 - 20:00 - 21:30 (CET)

  1. Connecting with what we want to stand for in a situation (values) and using them as a guiding force. 
  2. Tapping into healthy anger (assertiveness) to establish boundaries. 
  3. How to set a boundary step-by-step.

session 3 - march 15 - 20:00 - 21:30 (CET)

  1. Noticing the discomfort that shows up as part of the experience
  2. Working with the inevitable discomfort of setting a boundary and choosing this over longer-term resentment. 
  3. Dealing with other people’s reactions.

The Format

  • 3 virtual meetings: 45 minute presentation + 45 minute discussion / practical exercises 
  • Action steps to practise between sessions
  • PDF summaries
  • Video recording of all sessions in case you miss a session or want to re-watch it

We will use an easy to use virtual meeting room so we can all hear and see each other. If you don't have a webcam, you can also join via audio.

Cost

85 CHF / USD or 80 EUROS for everything - can be paid by bank transfer or with PayPal - please pick below. 

Space is limited to keep a small group dynamic - please sign-up here:

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Feb
14
7:15 PM19:15

Closeness Beyond Romance

Thank you for your interest - this event is now fully booked! 

How do we create intimacy in non-romantic relationships?

What holds us back from feeling more connected to other people?

Instead of expecting one person to complete us, how can we create a village around us?

These are the questions we will explore through a mix of open-hearted discussions / exercises + insights from the psychology of intimacy. And because it is Valentine's Day after all, we will also enjoy some delicious homemade chocolate! 

Cost: 15 CHF 

Everyone (men, women, single, not single, it's complicated) is welcome! 

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